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Best not knowing…

 I’d like to start off by thanking The Iron Lion for letting me see just how much I have yet to learn. You were right. Your post on perception versus the truth speaks volumes.

“ What is more important, perception or truth?  Would you be more happy if the person always wanted to cheat but didn’t?  Would you stay with a person who legitimately wanted to have sex with other people?  Is it possible to suspend your perceptions and allow someone to love you passionately and desperately?  ” -The Iron Lion

Most of us do value the perception or the illusion as opposed to the truth. The truth hurts. It’s that simple. We build up these images about people because when you see them without the rose colored glasses, the truth isn’t as wonderful as we would like it to be.

 Take, for instance, relationships. When a relationship is just starting off, it’s best not to talk about past girlfriends/boyfriends and sexual couplings. Why? Since we’ve built up our own images of our significant others, their past can somehow alter their image, making your illusion darker than what you want it to be. With that comes the second guessing. Should you have made the decision to be with that person now that you know they easily hurt someone else without any guilt? They can easily do the same to you… why stay?

 Is it because you believe people change and that your significant other, (rather, the illusion you’ve made of that person) would never do something like that ever again?

 Knowing about their past just plants this enormous seed of doubt inside of you and it grows with each passing day until you finally either a) fool yourself into trusting them completely or b) just give up and through tears and bitterness, move onto someone more trustworthy. Cut and go. Never looking back.

 Illusion wins because we want to believe that the risk we’re taking is worth it. More likely than not, it is… but there’s still that possibility that it isn’t.